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Overcome wrong goals in the psyche


Since the brain, and the goals in it, are not really always right because there are wrong goals, you should take a closer look.

So watch yourself (your psyche) with your SELF (which is also in the brain).

If you were inferior to a wrong goal, then you should ask yourself: What were the goals behind that led to it? And then take a closer look at them, try to change them, for example by creating a new goal that should replace or modify the old one.

If you want to change wrong goals or eventually make them go out, you should take a retrospective look at these situations and then carefully observe yourself, especially your feelings.

This could help

  • restricting the feeling; you are no longer 100% in this midpoint,
  • use this behavior to find starting points for a change in attitude.

The advantages of having a look at the process once the negative goal has been satisfied are obvious: The big supporter of this addiction, the midpoint, is switched off, so that when you look at it soberly, arguments and feelings can also play a role were excluded and can now also design the counterpart, i.e. a new midpoint.


Having a chance to get used to the situation afterwards, to relive these feelings, is what makes it possible for the future: You act in similar situations at the same time with the developed counter-strategy, which is also primarily supported by feelings that are now experienced in parallel. And aim to reshape the old one.

  • Here, all negative facts, consequences and consequences should be taken into account (especially; by experiencing the emotional again intensively) that arose after the wrong goal was achieved.
  • If the wrong target attacks again, you should take full advantage of this counter strategy.
  • As a result, feelings face each other (you hit the negative with your own weapons).
  • The alte midpoint-mechanic can no longer exclude everything else, because the counter strategy developed is now coupled with the center of the wrong target.

Ultimately, the point is to perceive the negative goal when it occurs, but not to respond to it so that it can move on or dissolve.


Because without attention it becomes weaker.


"False goals" is what I call anything that is (in the long run) unhealthy and creates appropriate behaviour or dependencies. Like addictions.
And they always work with feelings: pretending that you absolutely have to experience them.

And that is exactly what it is about: weakening these false feelings that powerful forces can develop to be satisfied.


Negative feelings (like all goals) create the urge to be lived out. They often pretend that life is meaningless without them. Or something bad could happen (for example, that your own beautiful world will no longer be satisfied and go under) if you don't follow them. This blocks alternative behaviors.

They work with carrot and stick: curls with beautiful feelings that one had already experienced in these situations and urge to give in because otherwise one would have to suffer because of the non-giving in.

The urge lasts until you mostly give in. You often do this quickly to get rid of it.

(But one should not forget: Emotions (even wrong ones) are not there in the long term in their intensity. Often they have weakened sooner or later or disappeared.


Behaviors arise in life situations, are learned here. Learning also means: conditioning. This, in turn, means reacting so and so in certain situations in life.


If you are in the wrong target with your attention, you could perhaps describe it like this:

  • First you see a kind of impenetrable, more or less transparent glass pane that separates you from healthy behavior. It cannot be pierced or pushed aside, even if alternatives should appear.
  • This is generated by the wrong goal of satisfying it and can be so effective that the center mechanics do not allow anything that does not match this prompt.
  • Even if the thought of reversing appears on the way to this goal, this barrier is usually impossible. The memories of beautiful feelings that one had experienced and want to relive contribute in particular here.

The goal wants to be achieved, fulfilled and fends off everything that stands in the way - as far as possible.



  • You will come across routines and rituals that are perceived as very pleasant.
  • You should take a close look at these so that you can later process them emotionally (in a dry state, so to speak). So you look the enemy in the eys.


The better you know something, the better you can handle it and possibly influence it.
Overcoming oneself can be compared to two fighters - two centers - who are in the brain and mainly fight their conflict with the arms of feelings.

As with any fight, you should prepare for it:
Exercise to make yourself stronger. And analyze the opponent; recognize his struggle structures.
Because only with strength you can hardly win a fight, the tactics are much more decisive.
Training to regain the upper hand is important: to put yourself in the right place, mentally and emotionally, in relevant situations, to live through them and to remain in your goal of not giving in.
The central point is to see false emotions for what they are: pests of health.
This, and knowing the basics of people, brings you closer and you can try to change them through your goals of overcoming and adapting.
That means, to form a will goal (for example, a healthy alternative) with one's self and to influence goals that exercise a kind of enslavement. So, they more or less dull them with the center mechanics that are now working for health.

Instructions to leave something behind one:


Since people are shaped by goals, the best way, if wrong goals appear (which are usually accompanied by strong feelings), would be to focus on an already existing positive or new goal.
After repeating this behaviour and paying attention to it, this can become stronger than the wrong target, and this via the midpoint-mechanics can make it weaker and weaker.

You can also use this meditative relaxation method, which has proven itself well for serenity (relaxed from the wrong goals):
Approach the supposed end of the universe as you inhale, and stay below this limit as you exhale.
Note: Since the universe is infinite, you can of course never reach the end and continue this exercise indefinitely.
This also removes attention from the wrong target.

Since the brain is controlled by goals (which then form neuronal networks to reach them), you should use these knitting patterns, especially their feelings, if you want to bring about changes in yourself.


The more permanently you pursue the goal of the change and focus your attention on it immediately when the wrong goals reappear and are perceived, the more sustainable and automatic the change in yourself will be in the long run.

So, it is a question first of all to link the unhealthy with healthy feelings (goals).

  • I do not mean this in the sense that one represses something. Because if you strive for this, you are at the center of this thought or feeling, which then shapes you through attention.
  • But by directing them to healthy feelings (goals). This is how the center mechanics works for you: what doesn't fit the target is perceived less or not at all.

If you stick to it, you could free yourself from negative feelings.
You often need patience to overcome yourself in the long run. Because getting rid of dependencies is a process that usually takes time.
Every time you have not given in, the goal of "getting rid of" has become stronger.
The stronger a goal becomes, the weaker others fail to fit.
In between, sudden strong flare-ups can occur that want to lead you back to unhealthy behavior.
You can oppose this with the behavior outlined above.

Another comment on the goals that guide you (and are unusual for one or the other person in this sense):
The goals are neuronal networks in the brain, which I also call midpoints (see above).
If someone e.g. speaks of "spirit" and thus thinks of supersensible, he actually means neuronal networks - without being clear about it. (Neural networks are formed by goals to accomplish them).
His own “spirit” (neural networks) leads him through this (his) statement to something supernatural, detached, remote from reality, if this network contains it.
This is also a wrong goal! Because these are not psychic.


Keeping this in mind is especially important in order to be left out of misconceptions about yourself and the world. Approximately:

  • There are supernaturals (such as intangible spirits)
  • You are at the mercy of a destiny that can decide freely - without being controlled by laws.
  • That all is possible (for example, you can change laws arbitrarily - without adding or subtracting anything).




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