So watch yourself (your psyche) with your SELF (which is also in the brain).
If you were inferior to a wrong goal, then you should ask yourself: What were the goals behind that led to it? And then take a closer look at them, try to change them, for example by creating a new goal that should replace or modify the old one.
If you want to change wrong goals or eventually make them go out, you should take a retrospective look at these situations and then carefully observe yourself, especially your feelings.
This could help
Having a chance to get used to the situation afterwards, to relive these feelings, is what makes it possible for the future: You act in similar situations at the same time with the developed counter-strategy, which is also primarily supported by feelings that are now experienced in parallel. And aim to reshape the old one.
"False goals" is what I call anything that is (in the long run) unhealthy and
creates appropriate behaviour or dependencies. Like addictions.
And they always work with feelings: pretending that you absolutely have to experience them.
And that is exactly what it is about: weakening these false feelings that powerful forces can develop to be satisfied.
Negative feelings (like all goals) create the urge to be lived out. They often pretend that life is meaningless without them. Or something bad could happen (for example, that your own beautiful
world will no longer be satisfied and go under) if you don't follow them. This blocks alternative behaviors.
They work with carrot and stick: curls with beautiful feelings that one had already experienced in these situations and urge to give in because otherwise one would have to suffer because of the non-giving in.
The urge lasts until you mostly give in. You often do this quickly to get rid of it.
(But one should not forget: Emotions (even wrong ones) are not there in the long term in their intensity. Often they have weakened sooner or later or disappeared.
Behaviors arise in life situations, are learned here. Learning also means: conditioning. This, in turn, means reacting so and so in certain situations in life.
If you are in the wrong target with your attention, you could perhaps describe it like this:
The goal wants to be achieved, fulfilled and fends off everything that stands in the way - as far as possible.
The better you know something, the better you can handle it and possibly influence it.
Overcoming oneself can be compared to two fighters - two centers - who are in the brain and mainly fight their conflict with the arms of feelings.
As with any fight, you should prepare for it:
Exercise to make yourself stronger. And analyze the opponent; recognize his struggle structures.
Because only with strength you can hardly win a fight, the tactics are much more decisive.
Training to regain the upper hand is important: to put yourself in the right place, mentally and emotionally, in relevant situations, to live through them and to remain in your goal of not giving in.
The central point is to see false emotions for what they are: pests of health.
This, and knowing the basics of people, brings you closer and you can try to change them through your goals of overcoming and adapting.
That means, to form a will goal (for example, a healthy alternative) with one's self and to influence goals that exercise a kind of enslavement. So, they more or less dull them with the center mechanics that are now working for health.
You can also use this meditative relaxation method, which has proven itself well for serenity (relaxed from the wrong goals):
Approach the supposed end of the universe as you inhale, and stay below this limit as you exhale.
Note: Since the universe is infinite, you can of course never reach the end and continue this exercise indefinitely.
This also removes attention from the wrong target.
Since the brain is controlled by goals (which then form neuronal networks to reach them), you should use these knitting patterns, especially their feelings, if you want to bring about changes in yourself.
The more permanently you pursue the goal of the change and focus your attention on it immediately when the wrong goals reappear and are perceived, the more sustainable and automatic the change in yourself will be in the long run.
So, it is a question first of all to link the unhealthy with healthy feelings (goals).
If you stick to it, you could free yourself from negative feelings.
You often need patience to overcome yourself in the long run. Because getting rid of dependencies is a process that usually takes time.
Every time you have not given in, the goal of "getting rid of" has become stronger.
The stronger a goal becomes, the weaker others fail to fit.
In between, sudden strong flare-ups can occur that want to lead you back to unhealthy behavior.
You can oppose this with the behavior outlined above.
Keeping this in mind is especially important in order to be left out of misconceptions about yourself and the world. Approximately:
That all is possible (for example, you can change laws arbitrarily - without adding or subtracting anything).
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