Satisfaction and meditation (conversation)


Since I've talked to countless people over the years about these topics, and their opinions have often found their way into my manuscripts, I call the dialogue partners here CP.



"Could you say exactly when and by what one is satisfied?" asked CP.


"When you have achieved your goals. These are in the brain. It evaluates and signals with feelings whether one has accomplished goals, is satisfied or dissatisfied, happy or sad, "I replied.


"Moods, such as bad mood, do not fall from the sky; they are usually dependent on achieved or not achieved goals, which are active in oneself.


So, anyone who knows his goals could perceive why he is in the respective mood. "


"Could one say, 'Know your goals, then you recognize yourself?' “


I nodded. "Exactly, this helps self-knowledge. The advantage is that the brain, among other things, with information of consciousness (better: perception) controls: make new goals, disable or re-activate old ones or modify the goal that is at stake.


Of course, there is usually not just one goal, there are several involved, which differ in value. They are more or less different in each person; These also depend on the respective perception and influence the mood ".


--- Worldview (valuing) ---


"It fits in nicely with what we talked about," said CP: "You can look at the world and say: It should be the way I want it to be, then value the human being, try the world for his purposes shape.


But you can also look at them in such a way that one says: She is as she is; what happens must happen as it happens. Then you do not value and just accept it.


In the first case, man constantly strives to shape the world as he wants it, trying to change it through various actions, arguments, and struggles.


In the second case he takes her calmly, lets her be the way she is. "


"Yes," I nodded again. "This also controls the satisfaction. It is always linked to the respective goals. People who are constantly trying to make the world what they want and cannot take it as it is are less likely to be satisfied. The heaviest are the perfectionists. Even idealists do not have it easy. "


"But if you want to live by your values, you do not have to change the world?" asked CP.


"The world or yourself. Of course, you are right: I, for example, strive for the middle. Between what I want and what I can or must accept. If I overdo it to one side or the other, then it is unhealthy in the long run, it does not align with life. "


"Crucial is that you have the right goals in you," CP considered.


"Or she corrects," I added.


"And what are the right goals?"


"Everyone has to decide for themselves. But it is good to know, to have the opportunity, to relax from current midpoints with the phrase, 'What happened, had to happen, how it happened.' Such as anger, whose destructive power can do much harm.


--- revenge ---


This is especially true for the goal of revenge, which is created for example by breach of sense of honor and restore inner satisfaction. In general, however, this is a pseudo-satisfaction, because the addressee of revenge usually wants to take revenge again. This vicious circle could be broken by making it clear that the past had to run as it expired, sparing torments and disharmony. "


Gladly, what happened is seen as meaning that the other, the environment, is to blame. Or fate, God, other higher powers would have caused this. Or they would have chosen one for themselves. As a result, you can completely move away from reality and then more fantasies will find plenty of food.


But ultimately, it's up to you to be satisfied or not: it did not turn out the way you expected it - so you had a goal in it - and it triggered your own reactions. "


"In the first place, one should look for oneself in oneself, whether wrong goals could act in one and one could change these."


"Yes. To change one's goals also means to try to influence the change of man and world, to adapt to oneself. "



"So you can stick to three points," concluded CP:


  • Satisfaction is achieved by fulfilling its goals.
  • Satisfaction forms according to the level of his expectation. It follows that it should be possible not impossible to reach goals to be achieved. This only produces dissatisfaction and possibly even depression.
  • Satisfaction (coming to peace) can also be achieved by telling yourself: what happened, had to happen as it happened.



"Meditation can also contribute to the satisfaction," came CP now. As far as I know, you also meditate.


I nodded. It is ideal for neutralizing or not acting on false targets or unfavorable behavior that has taken root. "


How do you meditate? "


First of all, all methods in this area have the goal of focusing on something and ignoring all other thoughts and feelings. An essential point is to perceive the oncoming thoughts and feelings – if they are very present –, but not to respond to them. It does not give them the space or attention they need to continue developing with their midpoints.


My meditation (relaxation) exercise is that as I breathe in, I want to get closer and closer to the end of the universe, and exhale just below this limit I have just reached. Of course, as the universe is infinite, I can never reach the "end" of the universe. And so I can continue this exercise indefinitely.


But you can also concentrate only on breathing; To breathe in by inhaling and staying in with exhaling. "


"So that's almost an attention withdrawal?"


"Yes. But not in the relationship of repressing something. Because if you seek that, you are at the midpoint of that thought or feeling that shapes you. "


"So," recapitulated CP, "only when you respond to something - in this case to his unwanted thoughts and feelings - they can shape one."


"Yes," I confirmed, "meditation is great for keeping attention. By the way, without any further action, all other midpoints (networks) are reduced in value. "


"And as I said: without exception, all relaxation techniques use the withdrawal of attention by turning to something else.



"Meditation is often seen as something mystical, supernatural," CP added.


"There is a theory that seems very plausible to me," Phil Osof replied, explaining: "The state of meditation comes from brain processes. It begins with the aim to eliminate all thoughts, feelings and perceptions. So it is very important to stop the incessant chatter of your thoughts. The concentration on it produces active neuronal activity in the attention centre of the brain. This signals to slow down the inflow of neuronal information. As a result, an area that is responsible for our orientation in space is more and more cut off from neural impulses. If the area lacks the necessary stimuli, it only remains for him to create the subjective impression of complete spacelessness, which is interpreted as infinite space and eternity. Another area is responsible for the idea of the limitations of our body. The total failure of signals on this page means that the perception of itself becomes limitless. As the depth of meditation deepens, the boundary between the inner and outer world becomes blurred, and a feeling arises that one expands and merges with the environment. By concentrating on one point, the flood of information, from which man derives his orientation, disappears. As a result, the boundary between the self and the world vanishes, the sense of oneness with the world and the limitlessness sets in. In the deepest meditation, one has the feeling of becoming one with the universe, dissolving into something much larger. "


"And all this happens only in the brain?"


"Of course, but the meditator actually has the feeling that he is one with everything. This state is searched. People who vehemently resist such a materialistic interpretation are often found among those who have already had this experience of 'boundless oneness with everything'. They just cannot and do not want to imagine that this only happens in their brain, because it was such an overwhelming experience. Perhaps they are afraid that they will not be able to relive this in similar intensity if they admit that everything is just substance and law and that there is no metaphysical power behind it. "


"Do you have to believe in mysticism to meditate deeply?"


"No. But of course you can immerse yourself in mystical fantasies. Personally, I prefer to stay in reality with both legs during meditation.




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