From the attitude that everything had to happen as it was, there is no point in being angry with yourself.
This is the view of reason.
If you haven't reached a goal, you can get angry.
It is the emergence of negative feelings that can quickly gain superiority.
Knowing this is good when you get angry with yourself again.
Anger always means that a desired goal has not been achieved, and from within the human being the urge to do so, no matter how or by what.
So, the reason is always a goal that has been set but not achieved.
Anger is often projected outwards; on other people, other living things, inanimate objects. Often also the fate that it is targeting you or evil forces.
It can affect mood and produce sadness, anger, or resignation to depression.
There are options for avoiding this: To say, for example: "What happened, had to happen as it happened “, and / or try to find, research, rethink, modify or give up on this goal,
From the perspective that everything had to happen the way it was, it doesn't make any sense to be angry. If you do it anyway, it is mostly due to automatic processes in yourself. If you are aware of this, future similar reactions could be changed.
If you ask yourself: "What goal did I want to achieve and why did I miss it?", You could win two things: first, to recognize the reason for your anger, and second, to get to know yourself better.
One could ask the question: Should one (the SELF) change his attitude with a modified goal, which one may create a new? Instead of getting angry and scolding about what's going on.
This goal should be structured like this: "Should I encounter a situation similar to this one again, I will react according to the alternative goal."
If you succeed in doing this, then of course the anger will also decrease in the future.
If you get angry, for example about inanimate objects (e.g. that something did not work as you expected), then a metaphysical or mystical belief often plays a role. Here it could be made clear: Objects have no will and do not want to annoy you.
The latter, however, is not possible if you are blind in anger. Here this midpoint fades out everything; you just want to satisfy your anger.
This includes anger at yourself.
Everyone has ideals of how they want or should be. This includes amongst others often not to make mistakes.
Quite a few people get angry and curse themselves if it does not lead to the result that one was striving for.
Does it make sense? Does this change anything?
This often changes something in the psyche: it crouches and splits off from the brute (the goal of changing itself through anger).
This can lead to a lack of self-confidence. And this in turn leads to disturbances in the inner harmonic processes.
It would be better to say to yourself: "What happened had to happen, how it happened “– and, as I said, try to find out why you did this in order to change this part, this goal of your psyche. This also applies to simple mistakes you made.
If you overcome this anger and move calmly towards the desired goal, if you finally achieve it, then you are satisfied in your psyche and proud of yourself.
Usually, people who only know little about themselves (how their psyche acts, that it works according to substances and laws) strive to be perfect.
In order to get to know each other better, one could observe oneself (with one's SELF). One would u. a. notice that the same processes often take place. Here would also be an approach to change yourself.
Because you are of course dependent on your psyche. And because of the harmony and balance, it is good to get on with yourself.
You cannot do this by force, nor by punishing yourself with curses.
Here, as I said, it could help to put your ideals to the test: to ask yourself where they come from and whether they really are still necessary in this form (because the goals of the ideals often go out on themselves if they are not met).
You might find what you are looking for with your caregivers, the people you grew up with, the culture in which you lived or continue to live, and the people you are now with.
Another little analysis: If someone is angry about something that they have done themselves, it is that the moment they are angry, the situation at that time floods them like a flash. So, he acts as if he had just done it.
And a little digression on swearing:
The curse arises from the failure to achieve a goal, and you blame something (external) for it. For example: a mystical figure, an inanimate object, a person or another living being.
In all cases, swearing is of little use because it doesn't change the past.
What could change would be if you take a closer look at what didn't work out or what came true, and then change your own behaviour so that it succeeds.
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