How could one explain oneself. . .                                    RAGE ON YOURSELF

 

Anger or anger is always triggered by an unachieved goal.

 

The respective reactions can be changed:

  • By finding the unreached goal
  •  look at it closely
  •  asks what part you have in it yourself
  •  and how to change yourself

  

An effective way to avoid anger or fury is the motto:

 

"What happened had to happen as it happened."

 

Because everything happens due to substances that run according to laws.

 

Then: Since the reactions (anger and fury) ultimately come from your own point of view and attitude, you should start with yourself regarding changes.
A solution can be created by asking how I could behave more moderately, appropriately in similar situations.
If you have found one, you should couple it with the spontaneous reaction. More precisely: Form a goal with this answer, so that every time the impulse wants to cause the behavior, this is also activated and has a dampening and regulating effect on its own behavior.

Because like everyone is driven by goals, creating new goals is far more effective than cursing yourself.

 

Many of the reactions are due to wrong goals. Also regarding his expectations of people and the environment.

 

Anger is often projected outwards; on other people, other living things, inanimate objects. Often also to fate, that it targets you or to evil forces.

Do you get angry? That something did not work as expected: it is not uncommon for an unconscious metaphysical or mystical belief to play a role. Here it could be made clear: Objects have no will and do not want to annoy you.

 

 

If you ask yourself: "What goal did I want to achieve and why did I miss it?" "You could win two things:

  1.  First, recognize the reason for his anger
  2. get to know yourself better.

 

Everyone has ideals of themselves - how they want or should be. This includes u. a. also often not to make mistakes.

 

Quite a few people get angry and curse themselves if it does not lead to the result that one was striving for.

 

Here, as I said, it could help to put your ideals to the test: to ask yourself where they come from and whether they really are still necessary in this form (because the goals of the ideals often go out on themselves if they are not met).

 

You could find what you were looking for with your caregivers, the people you grew up with, the culture in which you lived or continue to live, and the people you are now with.

 

 

So: why are you angry?

Because a goal was not achieved.

Why was this goal not achieved?

Because it was not possible in terms of the environment or people or your own inadequacy.

Is this anger useful or does it harms?

As a rule, the latter.

How could you change something about this goal in the future?

Most of the time, to modify the desired goal: add a coupling that relaxes the behaviour.

 

 

 

One piece of advice: you are what you are, so take it yourself - if you cannot change yourself without harming yourself.

  

Because you are what you are - i.e. your brain is (what abilities and possibilities it has).

  

In addition, think of the motto: what happened had to happen as it happened.

  

So your brain had to be the way it is now. And be as it is after your change request (i.e. the same or changed).

  

And you can only change through your brain (for example with your SELF, which is also in the brain) - if this has the ability to do so.

 

 

 

Another little analysis: If someone is angry about something that they have done themselves, it is that the moment they are angry, the situation at that time floods them like a flash. So he acts as if he had just done it.

 

 

Summary:

 

Angering about yourself is always triggered by goals that are in you and that have formed neural networks - midpoints. You want to be reached; to be either way, to understand, to act, etc.

 

 

One solution would be to understand this goal and possibly try to find out why and how it was formed.

 

Then you could consider how to reduce the anger or not to act anymore:

 

Is the goal really that important?

 

Is it just an ideal or a wish?

 

How could you modify it?

 

Don't you accept yourself the way you are?

 

 

 

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